tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post2867565953996781986..comments2023-09-14T05:43:16.327-05:00Comments on Loving When It Hurts: Does Anybody Hear Her?Loving When It Hurtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06338549996547179187noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-1583793782746666262018-09-24T09:09:32.469-05:002018-09-24T09:09:32.469-05:00Thank you Jamie for this blog. I will follow your...Thank you Jamie for this blog. I will follow your blog. I need strength right now and your husband led me to this blog. We don't know each other (except through email) but God puts the people you need in place at the time you need them. At that very moment, I needed his understanding and compassion. Unbelievable, we both have suffered a major loss very recently. His words of comfort have meant a lot to me. As I cry through this reply, I know my healing process is beginning and I'm gonna have to get through it... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04909452018396689923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-89844384820045597472016-09-19T13:14:59.236-05:002016-09-19T13:14:59.236-05:00Isn't God amazing? I'm so glad you finall...Isn't God amazing? I'm so glad you finally had the courage to end it. On my own, without prodding, I never would have had the courage to ends my affair. Truth be told, if my husband had never found out, I'd likely still be struggling with all of the shame and guilt and pretending, trying to build myself up through the eyes of another man. But God is patient. So very patient. As both of our stories testify. Praise God for working healing in your marriage and family and showing you that there is always hope!Loving When It Hurtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338549996547179187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-76151181360991933392016-09-14T18:48:54.470-05:002016-09-14T18:48:54.470-05:00I live in Southern California, fat my whole life, ...I live in Southern California, fat my whole life, shamed and lacking confidence. Met my husband at 21, first love, first kiss, pregnant...next few years were rough..I was feeling rejected, neglected, and I was those things. Then a man came to my work who seemed to "see" me. He was the devil in GQ clothing, was a psychologist and felt it his "duty" to take me under his wing and build up my confidence. My naivete was thick. But it was intriguing...I was leaving home, lying, just to see this man. My life was chaotic..so I taught myself how to compartmentalize. Two years pass, my first affair...then I meet another married man through a friend, which turned into a 14 year affair. I looked the part--at church, at work, with my family...no one knew my secrets. I told myself that I was getting my "needs met". Another lie. My life started to unravel during that 14 year affair around year 7. We started a new church, church ladies who loved me started pouring into me. My anxieties grew and I wasn't as successful in lying or faking stories. My world was unraveling out of control. I started therapy with an amazing counselor. She walked me through my life of shame, addiction, self loathing, and really helped me integrate myself--but I held tight to my affair...even when I wasn't satisfied, when I knew he didn't care for me...I actually was growing more in love with my husband, my heart was softening, and God was starting to work on me.It took three years of therapy--and six months after I graduated therapy, with all the "tools" in my chest, having read every Brene Brown book and self help books from the Christian book store I could find, just 4 weeks ago, I wrote the text that ended my affair. I finally told him I didn't want to cheat on my husband and that I wanted to grow in my relationship with the Lord. It was over. I have used my story, parts of it, to help other women who are broken and need to end the shame cycle. I am making up for so many years of lost time with my husband, daughter and with my King of Kings--but God was waiting for me...He was always waiting for me. Over the past five weeks, I have a new mystery man waiting for me when I get home--my Heavenly Father--I am His Beloved...Thank you for this blog. Nice to hear I am not the only sinner in this world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-30770450201563455532013-09-19T21:17:44.677-05:002013-09-19T21:17:44.677-05:00The greatest thing about being transparent has bee...The greatest thing about being transparent has been the level of accountability it has given me. May God bless your journey to be transparent!Loving When It Hurtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338549996547179187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-76754823356766556592013-09-19T05:09:39.331-05:002013-09-19T05:09:39.331-05:00Thank you for your courage. I am just beginning my...Thank you for your courage. I am just beginning my journey into transparency and back to my first love. I can't wait to see how God is working through you. DW of a DDHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01134202587015205631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-72112964184925171322013-09-14T21:48:39.423-05:002013-09-14T21:48:39.423-05:00Thank you for your kind words. That God can make ...Thank you for your kind words. That God can make beauty out of my mess amazes me. It is a decision. One we have to make every moment.Loving When It Hurtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338549996547179187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-70044322957579584682013-09-14T03:41:08.002-05:002013-09-14T03:41:08.002-05:00hi Jamie. I am very moved by your story of love an...hi Jamie. I am very moved by your story of love and how God brought you back to your first love, him. the story is so beautiful and has been a reference for me to love no matter what the cost. because God calls us to love, above everything else. he is a God of restoration, redemption and second chances.. you have no idea the amount of inspiration this has given me.. I now know what love is.. a decision and not a feeling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-7608063329758932912012-09-16T21:24:50.585-05:002012-09-16T21:24:50.585-05:00Thank you for your prayers. They are always appre...Thank you for your prayers. They are always appreciated. God has done some amazing things in our hearts and marriage these last seven months. I can't wait to share all the joy and miracles He has orchestrated. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. It's nice to know who reads these words sometimes. Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-39817202032368581622012-09-16T21:21:11.155-05:002012-09-16T21:21:11.155-05:00Jamie,
I have sensed for quite some time that some...Jamie,<br />I have sensed for quite some time that something was wrong, just from your posts on FB. However, I had no idea what it was. But since we've known Kris for a long time, even though we don't know you personally, I felt a strong urge to pray for you and I have been praying. Tonight, I just began to read your story as I followed the link in your FB post and it led me to this Blog site. Thank you for sharing and let me assure you that it WILL bless people and encourage someone who needs to read that they are not alone. I will continue to pray for you! ~~SusanAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12679872243283274662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-74364777139978046582012-09-11T17:27:49.281-05:002012-09-11T17:27:49.281-05:00I really appreciate your words! I will definitely...I really appreciate your words! I will definitely pray for your friend and for you as you minister to her. I know what it is like to want to see your friend make the right choice and feel helpless as you watch them spiral...it's hard and I will definitely be praying!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-63644028275318785052012-09-11T11:48:39.063-05:002012-09-11T11:48:39.063-05:00Oh Jamie! I have no words (well, I have lots of wo...Oh Jamie! I have no words (well, I have lots of words but none worthy...). I can NOT wait to see how God uses you and your story!! I'm so thrilled to be on the sidelines watching, reading, and praying for you. <br /><br />Please pray for a friend I'm reaching out to... I see her running away from her husband and her three children. Seven years ago, she was a pastor's wife. Today, she is still the wife, he is an elder in our church and I feel as though I can NOT let her walk away. Every 2 weeks, I drop things off to her at her office just to remind her that I am here. I pray every day. I don't know what else to do.<br /><br />Keep on doing what you are doing! <br />~HAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06990798033393558082noreply@blogger.com