tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post6509328684702254649..comments2023-09-14T05:43:16.327-05:00Comments on Loving When It Hurts: The shiftLoving When It Hurtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06338549996547179187noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-76868477435707584812012-10-02T22:02:27.141-05:002012-10-02T22:02:27.141-05:00Me too! Thanks for stopping by!Me too! Thanks for stopping by!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-37283676690822143152012-10-02T22:02:07.347-05:002012-10-02T22:02:07.347-05:00That is awesome about your husband. And God's...That is awesome about your husband. And God's love...words can describe it...Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-17894713058389662782012-10-02T21:01:59.702-05:002012-10-02T21:01:59.702-05:00Hi jamie, this is beautiful, and just goes to show...Hi jamie, this is beautiful, and just goes to show how God can bring you to blossom and thrive from pain and challenges. Blessings to you! Patsy from <br><a href="http://patsypat.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">HeARTworks</a> and <br><a href="http://papemelroti.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">papemelroti</a><br />HeARTworkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14953317888563627979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-87914952958964804422012-10-01T21:25:48.610-05:002012-10-01T21:25:48.610-05:00Thank you for sharing - your statement, "Heal...Thank you for sharing - your statement, "Healing always is painful." summed it up so well. So glad you're thriving!Lorihttp://leadershipcouples.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-39894682853633650392012-10-01T20:58:58.082-05:002012-10-01T20:58:58.082-05:00I'm new to CMBA within the last week. So glad...I'm new to CMBA within the last week. So glad to be a part of it! Thanks for welcoming me! :)Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-77268815043033085742012-10-01T20:58:19.826-05:002012-10-01T20:58:19.826-05:00I used to write about my issues (still do I guess)...I used to write about my issues (still do I guess) with depression for that very reason. I know what it is like to feel alone and if my story can bring hope to someone else in my shoes, then I want to be there.Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-24180252832114601252012-10-01T20:57:33.497-05:002012-10-01T20:57:33.497-05:00I'm grateful to be a part of it all!I'm grateful to be a part of it all!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-58774505745881054972012-10-01T20:57:03.459-05:002012-10-01T20:57:03.459-05:00Anyone who is a fellow Switchfoot lover is OK in m...Anyone who is a fellow Switchfoot lover is OK in my book!!! <3 Switchfoot!!!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-9632852484553751902012-10-01T20:56:29.125-05:002012-10-01T20:56:29.125-05:00Thanks for your support! I am daily grateful for ...Thanks for your support! I am daily grateful for how faithful and good God is to us.Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-7987495915805076552012-10-01T20:46:28.703-05:002012-10-01T20:46:28.703-05:00Somehow I've missed your blog among the CMBAer...Somehow I've missed your blog among the CMBAers, but I am looking forward to reading more of your posts. I so appreciate your willingness to share so openly.Elizabeth@Warrior Wiveshttp://www.thewarriorwives.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-30276381911915121402012-10-01T19:26:13.237-05:002012-10-01T19:26:13.237-05:00Excellent post, Jamie. You're vulnerability wi...Excellent post, Jamie. You're vulnerability will help others in ways you can't imagine. Sometimes it's good just to know you're not the only one who has faced such struggles. Glad you're a part of the challenge!Debi - The Romantic Vineyardhttp://theromanticvineyard.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-88481576531809824622012-10-01T18:56:03.136-05:002012-10-01T18:56:03.136-05:00Happy to be in the challenge with you! I love &quo...Happy to be in the challenge with you! I love "Until my awesome God and Creator put His hands in the soil around my heart " I love how you shared your heart:) I too have faced rejection and in my marriage too. When my husband rejected me, God let me know He will never leave me. I soaked up His love--can't get enough!!! :)) my husband saw me thrive and become beautiful in God's grace. I was kept by The Lord. That drew him back. The Lord's love is miraculous and immeasurable!CassandraSalamonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14480317178609835937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-83790635329178455232012-10-01T18:55:37.223-05:002012-10-01T18:55:37.223-05:00Good post and we are glad to have you working with...Good post and we are glad to have you working with us. Looking forward to reading some more.Redeeming Marriageshttp://redeemingmarriages.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-42722735999195708152012-10-01T18:10:19.033-05:002012-10-01T18:10:19.033-05:00Jamie, I'm so glad you shared this. The first ...Jamie, I'm so glad you shared this. The first guy I dated only wanted me for well... to be blunt... my body. He later admitted in front of the entire college during a chapel (2 years after we broke up) that he had struggled with homosexuality all through high school and thought "being with a woman" would cure him and make him a man. When we started dating, I was young and naive and liked feeling "wanted," but he hurt me deeply when he tried to take advantage of me without my consent, and then broke up with me because he thought it was my fault that we crossed boundaries and that I wasn't mature enough to handle a relationship (even though I was only 6 months younger than him). <br /><br />The second guy I dated was nine years older than me and he wouldn't touch me at all. He didn't want to hold my hand, put my arm around me, or even hug me. He thought my dreams were stupid, though he didn't say it quite that bluntly, and he couldn't understand why I wanted a career instead of a family (even though I was only 19). I thought God was punishing me for my problems with the first guy. I struggled with image issues and eating issues because he didn't think I was girly enough. I stayed because I didn't want to be alone, but the relationship ended really before it began. <br /><br />God worked in my heart over the next year, confirming my dreams were important and affirming my worth in Him. <br />Guy #1 came back in my life and asked me if I believed in destiny and he felt he needed to make it up to me and that we were right for each other, but that I wasn't *Shock* his first choice. I was his third, and he had a fourth lined up. Some destiny! <br /><br />Of course, I told him no and that I was holding out for who God wanted for me. Holding out for someone better... guy #3 who happened to be right around the corner (literally, a friend of mine for all 3 years of college thus far). Guy #3 and I weren't exactly the closest of friends during that time, but I knew something was different with him. God brought my Adam into my life at that time to remind me that He was in control, and someone I wouldn't have initially picked out for myself was His choice... because Adam would and does treat me well, better than I could've ever imagined or thought I deserved. Adam loved me for me, and didn't try to change me, and he cherished me and protected me the way I needed. And the rest is history. <br /><br />To the guys out there, if you're reading this, I echo Jamie. Never, ever treat a woman like the way guys #1 or #2 treated me. It is so damaging to the precious heart God has given us to blame us for your sexual problems and try to take advantage of us, but it's just as damaging to neglect her physically and never give her any physical indication that you love/care for her.<br /><br />To the ladies out there, you are precious and a treasure. God created you to be loved unconditionally by a man who will put you before himself. Never settle for second best just because you can't handle being alone. You do deserve better! <br /><br />And healing is painful. The damages from relationship #1 affected relationship #2 and the beginning of my dating relationship with #3, Adam, the best of the three, God's choice for me. Even the beginning of our marriage was haunted by the remnants of both previous relationships. But I hung on with ferocity because I love my husband and he loves me no matter what.God knew that Adam would be the final puzzle piece to my healing, and what a wonderful gift! Like you said, Jamie, I was done with surviving when Adam came along... I wanted to thrive! <br /><br />P.S. I love Switchfoot! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-37970809008552154822012-10-01T17:04:17.532-05:002012-10-01T17:04:17.532-05:00I look forward to reading more of your Half Marath...I look forward to reading more of your Half Marathon entries. I'm sorry to hear you were tempted by an affair, but so GRATEFUL that God is so faithful to us. The work He has begun in us, He will continue and I can't wait to read how He is working in you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-41194785650902026032012-10-01T14:10:01.301-05:002012-10-01T14:10:01.301-05:00I like that...that marriage is the best work. I w...I like that...that marriage is the best work. I would have never really thought about it that way! Good wording, concept. Thanks for stopping by!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-18406610464701258202012-10-01T14:08:55.720-05:002012-10-01T14:08:55.720-05:00Glad to be running the race with you! Marriage is ...Glad to be running the race with you! Marriage is hard work, but it is the best work!Sherry- Intentionally Yourshttp://www.intentionallyyours.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-37104176494566294932012-10-01T14:01:19.454-05:002012-10-01T14:01:19.454-05:00It is a day to day challenge...sometimes minute to...It is a day to day challenge...sometimes minute to minute on the bad days! Thank you for your kind words!Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-57956430160158897892012-10-01T14:00:46.475-05:002012-10-01T14:00:46.475-05:00No problem! Happy to be a part of it.No problem! Happy to be a part of it.Jamie Bishophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06196774663589391228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-53207659151891215652012-10-01T12:42:51.356-05:002012-10-01T12:42:51.356-05:00Thanks for sharing some snapshots from your marria...Thanks for sharing some snapshots from your marriage journey--especially the parts where you are so vulnerable, Jamie. I appreciate your heart in encouraging us to make Christ the center of our love. That's a day to day challenge for me, but one that I'm committed to in life and marriage. Great post!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13156048755652103073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2315562649488543945.post-34057763257172298782012-10-01T12:22:15.579-05:002012-10-01T12:22:15.579-05:00Great post! Thanks for linking up and sharing you...Great post! Thanks for linking up and sharing your story!busymomof10https://www.blogger.com/profile/16801397516931688515noreply@blogger.com